The Two of Cups is always a welcome card. In this image of lovers coming together, there is no mistaking that romantic adventure is the order of the day. One tenderly reaches for the other, and both are already so dizzy with limerence that they appear to be totally checked out…. If the Two of Cups has come into your sphere, you are very likely in love…. You will learn something from this love affair (or one-sided, desperate crush), and it will change you. Even if you end up among the one percent who feel keen pain from this card, ultimately you won’t regret it. You are learning something valuable: that you can love. You can hit emotional highs (and lows, yes). You finally understand what all those songs and movies and books are about. Welcome to the club, and when I say, enjoy it while it lasts, I’m not trying to be a killjoy. It’s just that you never know with these things. So stay in the moment, take it all in, love your heart out…. These relationships are destined to last a long time, so only sign on with people who fill your heart with joy or certainty.
The Lovers card also comes up for people in long-term relationships, often when the choice to leave or not to leave has arisen. More than just a ticket to ride the hot sex high-way, the Lovers is about making choices. An important aspect of this card speaks not of love but of building up your personal value system and figuring out who you are and what you believe in. It’s interesting that such a theme would be paired with the Tarot’s major love card, but it makes sense. If anything has the power to challenge our personal ethics, it’s the lure of attraction. In recovery circles, the biggest threat to a newly sober individual is said to be “romance and finance.” If the Lovers card has come up for you, you may be trying to make a romantic decision using the barometer of your morality. Is the person you are intrigued with already committed? Are you? Is it an office or academic situation, with a host of potential problems, that has piqued your interest? Is the object of your affections somehow off-limits—perhaps a close friend? Maybe you know the person you’re drawn to isn’t good for you, or maybe isn’t a good person at all, and you’re trying to figure out how you can indulge your powerful attraction without really letting this person in. Romantic complications present endless possibilities. What the Lovers card always wants you to do is take the high road—which is challenging. In fact, science has shown that obstacles placed before lovers only increase the brain chemicals that make them want each other so badly.
